Monday, 8 August 2011

5 things I would change about myself

Kate over at Kate Takes 5 has decided that this weeks listography is 5 things I would change about myself.  So without further ado, here are the things that need improving!!

1) Patience

Here's a opportunity to have a perve at take that as they tell me to "have a little patience" whilst you read the rest of my nonsense.  I didn't realise that having kids (durrr) would push my limits of patience to the very edge.  I am obviously either a)very impatient or b)very efficient.  I like to think B but we all know the reality is that it is A!



To be less control freaky/perfectionist

Yep, there I said it...I am a control freak.  Again, I didn't realise this until I had kids but for 15 years I was running big accounts worth millions and had a team working for me and so *had* to be in control.  I am slowly but surely getting better at this but find myself sitting on my fingers when the kids are say colouring as it irritates me if they go over the lines (naughty mummy!) 

To be less SHOUTY

I always vowed that when I had kids that I wouldn't be a shouty mum.  I had visions of wafting around with 3 kids hanging off my apron strings whilst I baked fairy cakes and they quietly and obediently followed my instructions, that they would get dressed the first time I asked, that they wouldn't fight over toys or for my attention that they would serenely wander around like the kids in the Joules catalogue......................HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA that is all I have to say on that one. 
4) To change my addictive personality

I have come to realise that I have an addictive personality - it has shown it's form in various guises over the years (which I won't be blogging about) and it takes me a while to realise that I am in the throes of an addiction.  I believe that this is part of my genetic make up and I nearly always replace one addiction with another.  Some of them have lasted for years, some I obsess over and then get bored of very quickly.   Am learning to deal with it.


I actually can't think of a 5th thing I would like to change so instead, I'll leave you with this quote which is one of my favourites.



Peace and Love


S.A.M xxx

17 comments:

  1. Hey babe, everyone has an addiction, depends on what your poison is & perfection - depends what you idea of perfection is. I think i cope so well (back when i had 4 under 5 & a husband at war, yep, could not be more alone, 4500km away from family & friends too, just for that extra degree of fun) was that i resigned myself to the fact i was a mum, 100% & while i had my sewing & life, my guys just came along with me. I had babies straight out of Uni, worked in the oil industry (yes, power, money, tenders worth millions) yet it wasn't personal like your own flesh & blood that you're raising - misbehaving compared to oil executives who you could cut off their expense account. So when i went full time into motherhood when the twins came along, i loved it, my idea of perfection soon changed to cute little girls with blonde pigtails in cool clothes & tonnes of baking, sewing, play time & teh art of 'set & forget children' where you set them up in a game or play or fun with each other & back away slowly & they don't even notice you're gone, so you can make calls, read, shower, whatever you need to do to stay sane. Now the eldest is in high school my patience has turned to not wanting to kill a teenager (she is brilliant 95% of the time but they are a combination of vague & selfish, you can't tell which they are using sometimes) plus 3 primary schoolers watching on. It just keeps shifting & changing & you have to stay 2 steps ahead at all times, run it like a business, their behaviour is rated on KPIs & they thrive on feedback & appraisals, try it!! Good luck, love Posie
    http://posiepatchworkblog.blogspot.com/

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  2. Ha ha, love the shouty one. I too had an image of calm floaty mummy with calm floaty children. We DO bake fairy cakes - with me shouting in the background at them to make less mess! X

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  3. Great list! The only thing that is constant in this world is change. Good luck with those, mate! ;)

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  4. What a fab post, I can totally empathize with your points and I think I may even have to have a go at this list myself. Who knows it may even spur me on to making some changes!

    I LOVE the quote too xx

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  5. @Posie - thank you so much for taking the time to write such a detailed response! I totally agree that there is nothing more rewarding than raising your kids - I love your idea of "set and forget". How you did that with so many under 5 and no support I'll never know!!!!!

    Off to check your blog out now

    Love S.A.M xx

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  6. @melksham mum - yes we also bake cakes - in between my shouting/wanting to perfect their icing etc ;-)

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  7. Haha, you could almost be describing me. i didn't realise I had a twin out there.

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  8. Totally relate to your list. I think we all have addictive personalities to some extent. My current addictions are blogging and Tweeting - they're a distraction from my responsibilities and the real world. Good luck with yours - and thanks for the quote at the end. 'Accept the things I cannot change.' I'm going to put that on my wall. Thanks

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  9. Goodness - so many of us control freaky, obsessive parents out there. I actually thought 2x about posting this as it is very personal and something that I didn't set out to do when I started blogging. Thank you all so much for your comments!

    @scottish Mum - Happy to be your twin!

    Love S.A.M xx

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  10. Great list and really funny. Thanks for the TT song. I like to have something to listening to when I'm having a good read.

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  11. Ok my love, it is official, you are actually ME! big blond hair and all.

    Mich x

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  12. I always wonder why I think shouting at my children will make them any more likely to do what I want them to. Doesn't work, but I still do it. Must have been a fish monger in a previous life...

    Great list.

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  13. I love this post!! I am a shouty Mummy at the moment - I was never going to be a shouty Mummy but sometimes these babies just drive you a bit mad!! One day I will be the calm lovely floaty Mummy that I wanted to be but that will not be whilst I have a 2 year old!!!! :-) Loved the Take That song!! They are so scrummy! x

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  14. Ha Ha - do you think we all have this vision of non shouty mum?! Are there any mums that don't shout?! I am yet to meet one who doesn't!!!

    Although I do know someone who grits her teeth and sort of whisper shouts......

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  15. What a great post. Do you remember at Cybermummy you commented that you don't like it when people tell their kids to shut up and I agreed with you? Yep....

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  16. Very thought-provoking post. And the Serenity Prayer is very apt.

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