Friday, 15 April 2011

Freedom or Stupidity???

I have a dilemma and I don't know what to do. 

Beansy is a few months shy of 8 (that amazes me in itself that I have a nearly 8 year old!) and for the last few weeks has been badgering me to let him walk to the corner shop on his own.

It is 50m away, no roads to cross and we know everyone on the street and in in the shop.  However, the shop is out of my sight.

I am really wavering as to whether or not to let him go for the odd pint of milk, newspaper etc.

At his age I was cycling round the block to the letter box and can really remember the feeling of freedom, a sense of responsibility that doing a job for mum meant.

However, times have changed and I am not so sure what to do.  I know the chances of anything happening are slim but they are still there in the back of my mind.

When I discussed this with my mum she said "absolutely not, no way he is too young" and despite my reminder that she used to let me cycle around the block, she is still adamant that this is to dangerous to even contemplate.

However, I am not so sure, I don't want to wrap my children up in cotton wool, I don't want them to be scared of their own shadow and I want them to have a sense of responsibility.

So, if you were in my shoes, what would you do????

Peace and Love

S.A.M xx



  1. This is a tough one my older two are 7 & 8 and I coudnt do it the 8 yo is nowhere near ready the 7 yo probably is! But I woudnt feel right! Maybe it's living in London and not know many people near me! I don't even let them play outthe front! I like to think it would be different if we lived somewhere else but honestly probably not! Interested to see what other responses you get tho.

  2. I am looking forward to the responses to this. Little L is only 8 months old and its already something I worry about for the future as the neighbourhood literally round the corner from us isn't great.I do worry to the extreme. Sorry not much help.

  3. I think it depends a lot on where you live. Living in London would be a straight out No but now we are living in a rural town I would let mine go to the shop if they`were with a friend.

    I let my 11 yr old start going on her own last year when she was 10. My other three kids were all similar age (around 10). I am a little neurotic though.
    All kids are different though and it would depend on how sensible he is x

  4. Caroline Endersbee15 April 2011 at 10:52

    This is such a difficult dilemma & I am afraid only set to get harder as they get older. So many factors to take into account. My head says let him go, my heart says no way! (not being terribly helpful am I?)Everyone's circumstances are different, I live in a village, but was not comfortable with letting my son go the the local shop until he was nearer 9.My husband by the way thinks I am way too protective & would prob have let him go from 6. You will have to make the decision one day & it won't matter what age he is when you allow him you will still question yourself.

  5. Thanks for all your comments, We live in London Suburbia, in a nice area and know everyone. If it was 50 yards up the road and I could see the shop I wouldn't hesitate to let him go, it's the fact it's just around the corner!

    My husband thinks he is fine to go, I also think he would be ok but I am also neurotic/over protective and so wanted to guage if this was just me being OTT.

    I *may* let him go tomorrow........

    then again, I *may* not!


    anyone else?

  6. Could you agree that he can walk alone but you will be watching from the garden gate? My daughter found these both acceptable - I started going halfway along the road with her, the quarter of the way, then a few steps, then stood at the gate etc. It weaned me off watching her - maybe you can explain to your child that you will worry so much that you need to do this if he can treat it as a favour to you, then he will feel all grown up at being supportive to Mummy.


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